Before you starting to negotiate and resolve a problem which persists many angles, emotions and the decisions which will make a considerable impact on your or somebody’s life , career and relations two things you must remember ,first is the selfishness of human being and insignificance of a human life .
Every problem or people we are negotiating are multi-facets. A win-win situation is always not possible and ideal, but success is remaining with the fact that no losers will be there after a negotiation.
To reach a solution we have to find a conclusion which is not a remedy but a door opening to solution. When we are approaching problem from deferent angles with enough empathy in views, of course some area will be available there all stake holders are having interest. It is just like two or more round shaped lights in deferent colours meeting together. The more the new colour areas it creates the more agreeable areas are in the problem. If every light keeps it own identical colour, no new colours are created hence chances of solution become grey.
An approach leads to conclusions and conclusions guide you to where the solution remains. To reaching a proper conclusion required lot of experience and maturity with basic understanding of problem as well as environments. To understand the involved parties needs you have to very much clear about their deeds and vice versa.
The success of good negotiator is not lying in the core of how much the involving parties are happy with decision or conclusion; it truly is how the decision will help the parties to achieve their goals, which they carry with them at the threshold of negotiation.
Never believe that a successful negotiator is successful problem solver or one who gives every one what they want. He or she is one who shows the parties the avenues of success and satisfaction which all other else failed to explore.
